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Ol' Father Time & I: Advice From the Halfway Line

March 24, 2014

Do you remember hearing how quickly college flies by? At first it seems like folks are just over-exaggerating when they say that college literally begins and ends in an instant, but believe me, they are for real. In the blink of an eye, you can go from being that anxious high schooler ready to start off in the world to that more seasoned college senior at graduation who has been through enough to know who they are. Four years comes and goes... and here I am halfway through it.

Now that the hectic rush of midterms is finally winding down and my mind is snapping back into shape, it just hit me that I am almost done with my second year of college. I have (essentially) completed 50% of my undergraduate degree. The rollercoaster ride is halfway over. When the hell did all that happen?! I have had so many conversations with my friends about how time has literally eluded our grasp and how amazing it is to see how far we have come. I look at my Posse with eyes of wonder because we have been together for three years now--we have seen, done and felt it all and are completely different people. It is mind-blowing to think about how time has pushed us in different directions.

Two years at Oberlin will do things to you (hopefully for the better), and in reflecting about environment, maturity and time I figured a quote parade would be the best way to prompt discussion. The following sections are loosely organized around things I wish I knew, insight that I fought to gain, knowledge I had to accept, and self-awareness that I am coming into. Personally, I notice that my grind is harder, my convictions run deeper and my commitments to people and principles are much stronger because of the experiences I have had in this Oberlin space. I had time to break down, rebuild and keep it moving. These quotes reflect that... so let the quote storm begin.

Why Didn't You Tell Me?!

  • "Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow." ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • "Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have." ~Louis E. Boone
  • "I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying." ~Michael Jordan
  • "The older you get, the more you understand how your conscience works. The biggest and only critic lives in your perception of people's perception of you rather than people's perception of you." ~Criss Jami

Self Definition and Its Meaning

  • "I used to want the words "She tried" on my tombstone. Now I want "She did it." ~Katherine Dunham
  • "I speak to the black experience, but I am always talking about the human condition." ~Maya Angelou
  • "Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed." ~Booker T. Washington
  • "Deal with yourself as an individual worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way." ~Nikki Giovanni

A Grain of Salt and a Nice Thought

  • "Defining myself, as opposed to being defined by others, is one of the most difficult challenges I face." ~Carol Moseley-Braun
  • "Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It's beyond me." ~Zora Neale Hurston
  • "I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to." ~Unknown
  • "I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone else's ignorance. ~bell hooks

Growin' Into It

  • "The most important thing people did for me was to expose me to new things." ~Temple Grandin
  • "You can fall, but you can rise also." ~Angelique Kidjo
  • "When I dare to be powerful--to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid." ~Audre Lorde
  • "What I will say is that what I have learned for myself is that I don't have to be anybody else; and that myself is good enough; and that when I am being true to that self, I can avail myself to extraordinary things... You have to allow for the impossible to be possible." ~Lupita Nyong'o

So what is my advice from the halfway line? Honestly, it is just to cherish every moment you have both on this campus and outside of it. For better or for worse, life happens, and you are never going to know how to prepare for ultimate devastation or how to make the sweetest joys last forever. The point may be to experience them to their fullest and live with the vivid memory. So to all the incoming students (as well as my continuing folks), love what you do and cherish it like it is your last day to do so. Time is of the essence.

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not gonna cry not gonna cry not gonna cry

I have ALL the graduationfeels right now.

Posted by: Ida on March 24, 2014 10:36 AM

So true Alex.
Where were you 30 years ago?

Posted by: Ms Ann on March 24, 2014 11:10 AM

I'm sure you do Ida! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this topic before you get out of here.

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on March 24, 2014 6:37 PM

Thank you and I was just a hope and a dream 30 years ago :)

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on March 24, 2014 6:38 PM

*tucks all the quotes in her back pocket for future reference* These are great ones!

Also, I want to double snap for keeping your eyes wide wide open, not just through college but through life. I couldn't do it all when I was a student at Oberlin (but I sure as all get out tried my damned to do so) but I tried to take as much of it in while I was in it. Same goes for post-college, too, because the world moves a whole lot faster when you're a student of life.

Posted by: Ma'ayan on March 25, 2014 1:27 PM

Why thank you Ma'ayan for digging the quotes! My quote game is becoming something serious lol. I definitely think that Oberlin opens your mind to not only just the "what is life?' question in college but how to keep asking it at different points in life... hence being a student of life is the best way to be.

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on March 25, 2014 8:12 PM

Nearing the end of my first year, I'm definitely starting to understand the "time flies by" sentiment. Dig the quotes!

Posted by: Frances on March 25, 2014 11:53 PM

Great quotes...and, you are right in so many ways...and sadly, time keeps going faster and faster as you get older, too. I didn't believe it, but it is true. Savor every moment!

Posted by: Karen on April 7, 2014 9:44 PM

Thanks Karen! I am definitely trying to cherish every moment I have here since time is disappearing so quickly!!

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on April 14, 2014 2:03 PM

Frances, it only goes by faster from where you are! I swear I vividly remember going through the application process and now I am approaching my third year. Time is amazing in how it disappears and thank you for digging the quotes!

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on April 14, 2014 2:05 PM

Thank you for reading! I encourage you to look at some other longer posts that talk about this topic of time, maturity and reflection a little better. "3:5 Reflections on Another Semester Down" and "Welcome to the Dub Club: Breaking In A New Decade" might be really helpful for you to check out. Happy reading!

Posted by: Alexandria Cunningham '16 on August 11, 2014 3:59 PM

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