the Outcry Now?
the dismissal of the sexual assault case: why is it that when someone
gets beaten up, there is a gigantic college-wide outrage, people
threaten to boycott graduation, there are angry complaints, parents
calling up foaming at the mouth, (and on and on) yet there have
been at least three reported (and lets keep in mind that that
is reported only) sexual assaults in a little over a
month and nobody bats an eyelash? I mean, theres always SAST,
and maybe that one person who writes an angry letter, but other
than that people go about their business as usual. No campus-wide
protest, no boycotting graduation, no passionate, heartfelt speeches.
Any perceived injustice or slight in any state or country, and Obies
will be there waving banners and chaining themselves to things,
but when students are allegedly being raped thats
not worth more than a half-hearted condemnation of the events? Heck,
before anything was proven, people were shouting for the diplomas
of the alleged (at the time) attackers in last years beating.
I have yet to hear a single person calling for the diplomas of any
alleged rapists. Wait, so free speech is a worthy cause but the
right to go about your business without getting beaten and violated
But then again, this is the campus where the printed response of
an official in the case of a rape at Drag Ball by a SECURITY OFFICER
was basically dont worry, it wasnt a student.
But I would have expected more from Oberlin students. Is rape only
a big deal if its someone from the SOA whos done it?
Perhaps even more upsetting than the apathy are the lessons Ive
learned from the current dismissed case:
1. Flirting with someone, saying you find them attractive, or saying
youd like to hook up with them gives said person
full right to do whatever they want with you, up to and including
rape, because obviously, expressing an interest means you want it.
If that is the case, let me make a point to declare in public that
I find everyone on this planet completely, utterly unattractive,
in every sense of the word, and would never ever even dream of engaging
in sexual activity with them. So if anyone thinks Im flirting
with them and asking for it (wink, wink), you can know
that youre completely wrong, so dont think of trying
to use it against me in a court of law.
2. Any girl that is dumb enough to be in a room with two boys late
at night was obviously looking to be raped/wanted to have sex.
However, strangely enough, I dont remember the campus declaring
last year (once again in the infamous beating case, which I am just
using as an example and in no way trying to devalue) that anyone
dumb enough to unlock their door to strangers at three in the morning
deserved to be beaten.
3. Having sex with the object of your affections friend watching
(and perhaps keeping you from leaving) is characteristic of consensual,
I have to say I dont agree with that last one, but I am a
bit of a prude. I do have to say that learning these lessons make
me feel very safe attending this school.
I do have one idea that I think would benefit everyone:
The next time you read about a reported sexual assault, shrug, say
that sucks and turn the page, try to close your eyes,
and imagine, in graphic detail, (with stereo sound and texture and
everything) your grandfather, mother, girlfriend, boyfriend, sister,
or hey, even yourself getting violated repeatedly with a large object.
And if that sounds disgusting or tasteless, well, it is.