Would Nina Do?
Ive been dating this guy for like a month and hes totally,
like, caring and sensitive and wicked hot, but I feel a little weird
because he only hangs out with girls. Like, I know hes really
into me and I shouldnt be jealous, but this is bringing out
my green side. I find myself wanting to know whether he has romantic
histories with any of them and stuff like that. On the other hand,
sometimes it seems more like hes one of the girls than that
flirtatious with them. If I bring it up, is that really lame? I
dont want to fuck this up.
Uneasy Being Green
Sounds like youve landed a good fellow. You should always
give the benefit of the doubt when you are building something, especially
when it seems like there could really be a future.
Just because a guy has a lot of girl-friends doesnt mean hes
running a harem. It doesnt mean hes like up all night
watching Judy Garland musicals with them either.
I happen to be a girl who has lots of male friends, and I understand
how it was probably threatening to my boy at first, so Im
sure you could bring it up (in a non-chalant way) if you need a
little reassurance. But I would seriously warn against actually
interrogating him on specific friends.
Its a shame when girls are insecure and focus on such things,
when they really have a lot to be excited about. Just remember,
you met a nice boy who clearly likes you. Yay!
I love the ladies, but the problem is, I love them all. So I get
really into a girl, but once the thrill is gone, I cant maintain
that interest. I recently ended a fling but want to be friends with
the girl. But shes pretty pissed because I am already seeing
someone new. I dont see why it cant just become platonic.
It sounds like you are one of those people who shower others with
attention and then take it away abruptly when you get bored, which
is beneficial to absolutely no ones ego. You have to realize
that, unlike you, most people have a hard time seeing something
good come to an end, especially if it seems random.
Its nice that you genuinely like the girl and still want her
in your life, but it also seems like somewhat of a fantasy that
it should be easy to make the shift in status from lover to pal.
The best thing to do is tell her you understand, and that this is
just how you are, (though maybe that should change at some point)
but she is important to you. Let her know you will give her some
space but youd like to be able to hang out and start over
If you want to really lay on the crap, you could give her some lines
about how she doesnt want to be with you anyway, since you
are such a badass. But really thatll just sound like crap.