Dating, or forming a romantic relationship with another, is considered “..a well-established social institution in American adolescent life.” (Steinberg, 1999 p. 323). Indeed, an adolescent’s idea of who is acceptable to date comes from parents, peers as well as society in general. However, for many minorities, dating involves balancing the American ideas of dating with their native cultural norms for dating. Chinese-American adolescents are one group that face a difficult, and not often portrayed, choice when entering into an interracial relationship.
Occurrence of Interracial
Dating Among Chinese-Americans
As
a result of the 1965 amendments to the Immigration and Naturalization Act,
the immigration rate from many Asian countries, including China, has risen.
(Qian, 1999). Many researchers have questioned how interracial dating
will rise or fall due to such changes in Chinese population in America.
One hypothesis, offered by Jessie Tzeng (Tzeng, 2000), is that with an
increased amount of Chinese-Americans in the country interracial dating
and marriage by Chinese-Americans would decline. Chinese-Americans
would choose someone of Chinese decent to date or marry.
Another
idea however, is that in many cities in America, “...intermarried couples
mingle [and] mixed unions no longer evoke intense antagonism or hostility
from outsiders and bystanders” (Sung, 2000 p. 349). The idea is that
in today’s society, with many races and cultures increasingly having contact
and opportunities to interact with each other, the chances of having
intergroup friendships as well as other relationships (including romantic)
is increasing (Tzeng, 2000).
Reasons for Dating
“For
any two racial groups, interracial marriage depends on social contact.”
(Qian, 1999) In addition to social contact, it seems, there are many
determinants other than the race of a perspective partner for Chinese-Americans.
Included are:
Attitudes Towards
Interracial Dating
According to Sung, the biggest problem faced by Chinese-Americans in interracial
relationships, no matter the race of the partner, is objection by the family.
Such problems can result in tremendous conflict and even ending familial
relationships. (Sung, 1990) In American society, there seems to be
two different attitudes toward interracial dating. In larger cities,
many Chinese-Americans reported only small, rude unpleasentries such as
“...stares, rudeness, uncomplimentary remarks or disbelief.” (Sung, 1990).
However, in small towns where there is not such an ethnic diversity, more
severe consequences have been issued. Familial and societal pressures
can be so influential in fact, it is unclear, even when doing research
on interracially married couples, how many marriages never took place because
of intense pressure from parents and society (Tzeng, 2000).
Predictions for the Future
Chinese immigration rates are the largest of any other nationality (Lee,
S.M, Fernandez, M, 1998). In fact, “Continued high levels of immigration
and sustained population growth will lead to an Asian population
in the U.S that is projected to increase from 7 million in 1990 (3%) to
35 million in 2040 (10%)” (Edmonston and Passel, 1994 in Lee, S.M et al.,
1998). Such an increase of Chinese Americans in the country, as well
as many 2nd and 3rd generations coming into the dating age will likely
produce mixed results. On one hand, there will be a larger group
of potential partners of Chinese decent. However, there will be many
more Chinese-Americans who are assimilated to the United States culture.
They will be less likely to conform to their ancestors rules and ideals.
What This Means for the
Chinese-American Adolescent
Unlike same-race relationships, interracial relationships are not represented
often in today’s society. In fact, research on an adolescent’s feeling
about their ethnic identity, traditional culture, the family’s views and
the impact on interracial dating is lacking. There is some research,
based on interreligous dating, that indicates that an adolescent will have
to decide whether interracial dating and marraige involves primarily the
joining of two souls through love or the joining of two cultures through
traditions (Mayor, 1987). The distinction between the two alternatives,
and the implications of each, can be applied Chinese-American adolescents
and the decision they must make when entering into an interracial relationship.
Besides such generalizations, there is very little research on the decision
making process a Chinese-American teenager goes through. More research
regarding parental and familial attitudes toward interracial dating of
Chinese-American adolescents would be benificial. Such continued
research is needed to fully understand what a Chinese-American adolescent
deals with when considering an interracial relationship.